Well it's been over 10 years since my last post and reached the grand old age of 40! Blogging is one of those things you start doing because you are eager to share some information, and for a period of time you think you are going to want to post something everyday, but at some point you begin to tire of it. You still have loads you wish to report but presenting that information can be burdensome, especially when very few people are reading this.
Summary of the Past Ten Years
Am I now married or in any serious relationship? No. However, I did have a couple of short term girlfriends back to back at age 32 in 2014-2015, one I met at a singles night and the other on pof. It was a bit of a fluke I feel. I had several dates with another girl a bit further away in 2017. And a couple of other dates with two different women earlier this year. Otherwise not much to report on that front.
However in terms of my social life in general, things have improved incredibly. During 2012 I continued in the dating coaching I had in 2012, my coach suggested I that join a band, start playing my guitar in live settings (I am a fairly good guitarist btw - not sure if I mentioned that earlier) and try to be seen to be around more women, to make myself more attractive to women.
Around this time my uncle and another friend were hosting a monthly music night, mostly original acts, and I managed to get a few opportunities to play there around 2012 and into 2013. However more significantly, in 2013 I met an attractive female singer through a musicians networking site, who happened to live a ten minute walk away from me, and after initially meeting in June 2013, we performed our first live, paid gig in a pub in August, and continued to do more gigs in different venues, for the next five years, and this opened up a whole new social life for me. Things have largely dried up on this front, we may or may not do more music together in future, but its been a fantastic experience.
In 2017, when things were drying up on the music front, I decided to step out of my comfort zone and take up salsa dancing, which I enjoy very much to this day. I wouldn't say I made many close friends salsa dancing - its not an easy environment to get to know people that well as people are there to dance not talk - however it is added enormous value to my life in terms of acquiring the skill that allows you to go to salsa events confidently and thus opens up a new social world, and you get to interact with women, some very attractive ones I might add.
I was really getting into salsa and had a few other social outlets in 2019 and then...oh no, 2020 happened. The lockdown in the spring of 2020 was some of my worst nightmares come true, and took me back to the sad place I was in in the early 2000s when I had no friends, except this time there wasn't any potential to forge friendships. Because everyone was scared, either of catching the virus, or of being caught by the police. I couldn't even ask someone to meet for a cup of tea without being called something nasty!
Now if I had seen some tangible, verifiable and robust scientific justification for the lockdown, and real evidence that normal human interactions between healthy people were now somehow going to kill people, and that this lockdown was for a strictly limited period of no more than a couple of months - after which we go back to normal with NO restrictions of any kind...I would have been OK with it. However I did my research and found no such evidence that lockdown was justified, yet massive evidence that we were experiencing grand scale fraud driven by people with vested interests...in which case, if there is no clear scientific justification for putting us into lockdown, how can we ever trust the government to give us the scientific justification to get us out of lockdown?
However, against all the odds, I made more friends than ever before in 2020. I connected with others online who thought exactly like me, and we started meeting in parks, against the guidance. It was indeed quite easy for those of us who disagreed with the prevailing narrative to make friends, as we all felt isolated, lost friends and were desperate for like minded connections.
Time to find a girlfriend
However as I stated at the start of this post, while my friendship circles have increased significantly, this has not automatically translated into me finding a girlfriend. However I have a very good friend who I met through the lockdown period who is very good on this front, we discuss this regularly.
I feel that now I have hit 40, its time to really focus on finding a special lady, and going on more dates in the meantime. It's been getting to me lately, however I thought I would use this annonymous blog to document my thoughts on this and my journey.
